Can it possibly be true? Is this the era of the brainy grrl? Even in love?
In The Romantic Life of Brainiacs, Boston Globe Magazine, 2/2/2007, Stephanie Coontz reports that college graduates and high-earning women are now more likely to marry than women with less education and lower earnings.
Furthermore, and perhaps more shockingly, men’s preferences have also changed. Many studies show that men now want a wife who is at a similar educational or occupational level. The 2001 Journal of Marriage and Family paper found that:
“…in mate-preference surveys taken in 1985 and 1996, intelligence and education had moved up to number 5 on men’s list of desirable qualities in a mate in both surveys, ahead of good looks….And in choosing a spouse, males with a college degree rate good looks much lower in importance than do high school graduates.”
But, it even gets better. In the past, employed wives tended to divorce at higher rates than non-employed wives. According to Coontz, this wasn’t because of the employment itself, it was because the wives had more options to leave a bad marriage. But, just last year, a study discovered that wives’ full-time employment is now associated withincreased marital stability.
And, now, the icing on the cake. The sex is better too. As you might suspect, educated couples have more variety in their sex lives, most notably participating in oral sex (turns out the more educated a women is, the more likely she is to receive (!) oral sex. You go grrl.) But, here is the best part:
“Educated husbands are also more likely to help with housework, which turns out to be a potent aphrodisiac.“
Ladies, were truer words ever spoken? Is there anything hotter than your darlin’ cleaning the house followed by …? Ahem.
And the good news just keeps coming:
- marriages where women outearn their husbands are just as stable as other marriages,
- men view the quality of their marriage higher the more the wife works outside the home, and
- well-educated men have increased their housework more than less-educated ones.
It’s all great news for girls who have the genes and the resources to get that education.
So, this is a timely moment to share a great new blog that I’ve encountered called Memoirs of a SkepChick: Critical Thinking for the Masses. I met a couple of the bloggers at a Darwin Birthday event, and they are fun, happening, brainy grrls who are destined for happy, stable marriages with lots of great sex (and the clean houses that go with it!).